How are we to pursue wives?

How are we, who hold a high view of the soveriegnty of God, to differ in the way we pursue a wife from those that do not? Surely, the fact of His sovereignty effects us, but how? Now, let us also presuppose that we are here speaking only of Christian men, and not the unregenerate who care nothing about the Lord or the glory of His holy name being magnified. To answer this question, I will first describe how Arminian men (which we will call those who do not completely esteem the sovereignty of God) pursue wives and for what purpose. I will then describe what the sovereignty of God assures, yet does not prevent. Then, I will seek to explain how a Christian man should pursue a wife. First, Arminian men generally do not believe that God is in control of all things, working them for His glory and their good, and thus they feel an increased burden or pressure to make finding a wife happen. Their purpose in wanting a wife can be the same, yet their method and confidence in finding one is most times focused on the will of the man to “make it happen”. The great problem with this type of thinking is that it manifests itself in anxious words that do not glorify the Lord as all-knowing and all-powerful. Second, the sovereignty of God assures us that He is working all things for our good (Rom. 8:28) and the glory of His name (Eph. 1:11); and therefore, that He has planned all events before the creation of the world for these two complimentary ends. However, our belief in such a sovereign, powerful God is never revealed to us to prevent us from acting, but as an encouragement to act, knowing that in our willing, He is working. (Phil. 2:12-13) A high view of the sovereignty of God is then never given to prevent action, but to prevent worry and doubt. For if He has planned one woman just for me, then I should feel no pressure from another brother, knowing that no one can steal her away. (Ps. 46:10, Matt. 6:25-34, Jer. 32:27, Ps. 115:3, Ps. 84:10-11, Acts 17:25-26, Phil. 4:6,19, Matt. 6:33). We are commanded to be still and to rest assured that He is God and will be exalted among the nations and in the earth, that He, who provides for the sparow and clothes the lilies, will provide for all of our needs according to His glorious riches, that nothing is too difficult for Him, that He is in the heavens and does whatever He pleases in the earth, that He does not withhold any good thing from those who walk is blameless, that He has determined our appointed times and the boundries of our habitation, and that we therefore may have confidence in prayer with thanksgiving and freedom from anxiety, knowing that He will guard our minds and hearts with the peace of Christ, and that He will not deny Himself in His promises to us. With this in view men of God, pursue!! Thirdly then, it is my belief that Christian men are to pursue a wife for the glory of God in a desire to demonstrate to the world the love of God, by painting a picture of the gospel in marriage. And further, that that they are to do so through the prayerful contemplation of their calling and those that have been placed in their paths that might aid in that calling, always glorifying the sovereignty of God by not worrying or doubting God, but faithfully believing that He who has promised will bring it about. (Luke 1:37) So in one word how do we differ: faith!